I was talking to a friend of mine at a party the other day who, half-heartedly, admitted to me that he couldn’t stand either of the Presidential candidates, but was voting for Donald Trump because of the supreme court appointments he would make. The subtext was simple: “I’m pro-life and want to overturn Roe v. Wade.”

I can understand that to a point. I don’t think abortion is something anyone should ever have to go through. At the same time, I think the best way to prevent abortions is not to make them illegal, but to make them unnecessary. No woman should ever have to be pregnant if they do not want to. To do that takes education and easily available contraception. No, we will not stop people from having sex. Sorry, that’s a non-starter as a strategy to reduce pregnancies.

If you don’t think people should be having sexual intercourse before marriage, than that is a completely different discussion, one you should not be hiding behind abortion to make. People will have sex without the intent to procreate. Whether you like it or not, that is a fact. And if you think pregnancy, then, is a consequential punishment they (i.e. the woman) has to endure for their desire for pleasure, then that’s a debate I want to hear you argue.

Getting back to my friend, he’s willing to put the future of the United States, the future of his children, the future of his children’s children… into the hands of Donald Trump because he wants abortion to be illegal. I invite my friend to think carefully about that goal. Is that worth putting a self confessed sexual predator, bully, anti-intellectual, racist, and misogynist into the highest office of our United States of America?

Instead, let’s work for a world where abortion is not illegal, but unneeded except in dire circumstances where the woman has been raped or the mother’s life will end. Let’s make all other needs for abortion unnecessary rather than illegal. That’s what Hillary Clinton says she will do.

Donald Trump will not take us into that world, but rather create a world where abortions are needed out of desperation. Donald Trump does not respect women beyond their aesthetic value as objects of beauty. After that, he is done with them. He has several children, yet leaves his children’s mothers as soon as they have served their purpose.

If you are voting for Trump simply because he gives lip-service to being “pro-life”, please look closely at the issue or you may end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater.